Traditional Dating or Online Dating?

Online dating has come a long way in the last few years. What was once considered a taboo by many is now widely accepted.

With that fact in mind, it is no surprise that more and more people are considering online dating as an alternative to what you might call “traditional dating” – i.e. the courtship ritual that has been a cornerstone of human society for centuries. But how does online dating compare to traditional dating?

Do You Need Online Dating?

If you are able to get traditional dates on a regular basis with little effort, you might (quite reasonably) assume that online dating isn’t necessary. And it certainly isn’t necessary – the question is more about how good a chance you are giving yourself of finding the right person.

If you have the kind of confidence and personality (and looks) to get regular dates, you have all the attributes to succeed with online dating. So why not give it a go? One issue with online dating is that you can meet someone who you clicked with online, but simply don’t click with in person. You can meet people that you like, but are not necessarily attracted to. If you are going to engage in online dating, It is likely that this will happen to you on more than one occasion, and you have to accept that as an eventuality.

On the other hand, with traditional dating, you can meet someone who you are attracted to, but then subsequently find out that they don’t fulfill your needs in other areas. This is not typically an issue with online dating, as your initial communication and dates are far less about the physical, and more about simply getting to know the person.

There are a few things that are unique to online dating:

  • You can expand your horizons by getting to meet a wide variety of people
  • You can approach it from a positive mindset and put no pressure on yourself – there can always be another date around the corner
  • You get to “filter” prospective dates based upon key pieces of information that you might not otherwise discover until later (does she have kids?)

If you’re shy, or scared of rejection, online dating opens up a whole world that was not otherwise available to you.
There are more, but the above are what I consider the key “selling points” that demonstrate the value of online dating.

Deception

When it comes to online dating, some people lie – that is an unfortunate fact. Just two weeks ago, I had a first date with a girl who had described herself in her profile as “slender”. It turned out that she had been economical with the truth (to say the least).

What people don’t realize is that the lie itself is typically more of an issue than whatever attribute they had actually lied about. I’m not going to go on a second date with someone who is deceptive. Having said that, my experiences have been largely positive. On the other hand, online dating means that you can do away with blind dates forever. Not many people mourn the loss of that particular activity. Although online dating is more acceptable to society as it ever has been, it is still considered a taboo by some.

You still see the occasional profile where a person states, “You must be willing to lie about where we met”. In fairness, the fact that this is often said in jest says a lot about how the perception of online dating has changed.

Personally, I would prefer it if I met my perfect match in the offline world. But it’s a mild preference – not something that rules over me. It is fair to say that “we met on a dating site” is not a particularly fascinating “how did you first meet” story, but then my priority in finding someone is not to have a great “how we met” story.

Ultimately, it is up to you in deciding how you choose to go about dating. However, there is no doubting the benefits of engaging in online dating, and I strongly believe that it is something all single people should at least consider. After all, what’s the worst that can happen? You can read more about online dating here.